Water Your Own Garden is our way of encouraging you to enjoy moments of reflection, admiration and learning, and to then focus on your own garden…your life.”
Water Your Own Garden
Congratulations, you're divorced!
No, I'm not one of those people encouraging my friends to throw divorce parties (although I'd be happy to attend one in support of a friend), but I am the friend who sees the excitement that change can bring. And I'm the friend who is excited to turn the page towards the next chapter of life in anticipation of what might lie ahead!
At 27 I found myself in an 11 year relationship that culminated in a beautiful wedding witnessed by family and friends. The day was perfect…other than that gnawing feeling we both shared…a feeling that made us question the week before ‘why on earth are we doing this?’
Our relationship was one of those that started young, and as we grew, it didn’t. But instead of facing up to that, we somehow just kept going with what seemed easier, and we found ourselves married. Married and unhappy…and so 14 months later, we separated.
I’ll spare you all of the gory details, but needless to say there were many dark days and lots of heartache. Tears flowed, questions were asked and the grieving process for something lost begun.
Now, almost 10 years on, I look back at that time, and I see that it was an opportunity for change. An opportunity that presented itself in a difficult form, but an opportunity all the same.
So many great things came from my divorce. Once I worked through the sadness and was able to move forward, so many new doors opened for me. Ten years later I am married to a man with whom I share the same values, goals and dreams. Our journey together has seen us travel interstate for some time, build our new home and has brought us the greatest gift of all, our two beautiful little girls. And I have realised my dream of having my own business where I can spend my energy on projects I am passionate about.
I’m not naïve. I know that I am lucky and that perhaps there was even a bit of an ‘aligning of the stars’ for me after my period of sadness. But I also know that my positivity, my ability to believe that I deserved more and my commitment to putting out in the world, only good things, contributed to my journey.
Whether you aim to be the ‘master of your own universe’ or simply need to get through a difficult period of great change, my suggestion is to first, pick up that watering can and begin to water your own garden. Grow your own happiness and perhaps, you too, will look back on your time of change and sadness as an opportunity to celebrate.
I’m no expert, but below are 6 ways that I got through my divorce:
Hatrick Communications was born out of my enormous change in life, so to that I say thank you, and ‘congratulations’ to me!
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September 19 2017
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May 10 2018